Epiphany

As with all relationships, arguments are inevitable. There was a moment in my life when I thought arguments did not help a relationship. Hey, I was like 7 years old! I had so much to learn and still have so much to learn. Now I'm convinced that arguments strengthen relationships if resolved correctly with mutual understanding from both parties.

I've thought about whether I should write a post about my unflattering moments in our marriage, but I figured this one might help others if I wrote about it.

For a while now, my husband and I argued about the same thing once a month. The way the argument starts varies, but it typically always ended with up with us making up and me satisfied for the time being. That is until recently when we had the same argument again. I'm sure you're wondering what that "argument" is. I can't speak for other women, but for myself, for the longest time, I equated having a "meaningful" conversation with my husband to love or spending time together. If he and I were in the same room and he was watching television, I did not think it was the same because he wasn't "present". I didn't feel like I was spending time with him. He didn't understand why I was upset because we conversated, but I wasn't satisfied with our talks. He would end upset because he didn't understand, or knew how to make me happy or feel better. This time, I had an epiphany. He had said to me that he always loves me even if we're just sitting in silence whether we were watching television or not. He loves me regardless when I'm present or not. He loves me when we're in the car together, or when I'm in the kitchen cooking. His love, our love, does not have to equate to a "meaningful" conversation as I though it had to be. Our love simply is. We don't have to have to have "date nights" where we had to leave the house and watch a movie or go to dinner; our "date nights" can comprise of us enjoying each other's company when we're at the store purchasing items for our home, or daughter. Our "dates" can just be us connecting over a scene on a television show.

My view on what love is was so narrow and categorized that it made us miserable, but now my eyes have opened and I am able to see what love really is. Ladies and Gentlemen, that was my epiphany.